Planning Your Wedding at Saint Matthew’s Worthing
Can we be married at Saint Matthew’s?
To be married at St Matthew’s under the 2008 legislation, a couple must be able to answer YES to at least ONE of the following:
- one of you been baptised or prepared for confirmation in the parish?
- one of you has ever lived in the parish for six months or more?
- one of you at any time regularly attended public worship in the parish for six months or more?
- one of your parents lived in the parish for six months or more in your lifetime?
- one of your parents regularly attended public worship there for six months or more in your lifetime?
- one of your parents or grandparents been married in the parish?
- (All of these refer to Church of England services)
How do I book the wedding?
Booking the date and time for the wedding is an important first step. Please contact one of the clergy to arrange a date. One of the parish clergy will talk with you about the procedures and these notes are simply an “aide-memoire”.
Banns of Marriage
The legal procedures in the Church of England for getting married usually involve the calling of banns. This means that a statement is read out for three consecutive weeks in church stating your names and asking anyone who knows of a legal reason why you should not be married to declare it. The “banns” are called out in the parish church at Saint Matthew’s and the priest there will arrange for this to be done and will also tell you when they are to be called. This is usually over the first three Sundays of the month before the wedding is to take place.
If both parties live in different parishes the banns must be read in both. The responsibility for getting them called in another parish is yours, and this will be explained to you.
Banns are valid for only three months. There is a fee for banns being called at another church. You will need to collect a certificate from that parish to say that the banns have been called and you need to present that to the priest who is taking your wedding.
If neither of you live in St Matthew’s Parish but you worship regularly at Saint Matthew’s, then you should be on the church electoral roll. Banns are then read at Saint Matthew’s as well as the churches of the parish(s) in which you live.
Banns are the only legal procedure with which you have to deal and you do not normally have anything to do with the Registrars office since a priest of the Church of England is an ex-officio registrar. Whilst there are certain particular exceptions to the above rules, they will be explained where applicable.
Once you have made the decision to be married at Saint Matthew’s, you need to contact the Parish Office and request an application for marriage form. It is returning this completed form to the clergy that “books” the day and date of your wedding. Within the three-month period before the wedding you should have an interview with the vicar who is taking your wedding so you can go through the marriage service with him and discuss details of readings, hymns, music etc. A date then has to be fixed for a rehearsal when others taking part will also be involved. This is usually fixed on a date as close to the wedding day as can be managed and is held in church.
During the period between booking the wedding and the interview, you may wish to discuss matters and you are welcome to telephone the clergy. If you wish to print an order of service, it is essential that you discuss this with one of the clergy before going to print. You may find that the best time to have a word with the clergy or to speak with the organist or choirmaster is after worship on a Sunday morning.
Parish Administrator (Maggie Walters)
Parish Office, Tarring Road, Worthing, West Sussex, BN11 4HB
Telephone: 01903 207024
The Vicar (Rev. John Chitham)
Telephone: 01903 218026
The Associate Vicar (Rev. Mary Parish)
Telephone 01903 236909
All of the above can also be contacted via the Saint Matthew’s website Contact Us page
DEDICATION SERVICE FOLLOWING A CIVIL WEDDING
This service is for those who have had a civil wedding such as in a registry office, or other licensed wedding venue and would like to dedicate themselves to God and each other in a church.
To check availability, or book your dedication service at the Parish Church of St. Matthew’s, Worthing please contact the Parish Administrator .
Service fees from the 1st January 2014
|Reading of Banns.||£ Price on application.||Terms & Conditions|
|Banns Certificate (Issued at time of publication).||£ Price on application.||Terms & Conditions|
|Wedding Service.||£ Price on application.||Terms & Conditions|
|Wedding Certificate (Issued at service).||£ Price on application.||Terms & Conditions|
|Verger.||£ Price on application.||Terms & Conditions|
|Organist.||£ Price on application.||Terms & Conditions|
|Decoration of the church with Flowers.||£ Price on application.||Terms & Conditions|
|Hire of Hall or Church for reception (Please include setup time).||£15.00 per hour.||Terms & Conditions|